I find it amazing how my wife, who is such a gorgeously beautiful woman, does not see what I see when I look at her. She eats right, exercises regularly, and has impeccable taste in clothing. Sometimes I walk up to her and simply say, "Hey beautiful..."
Still, every time I say it, she blushes and blinks in complete astonishment. She has told me that I have a habit of telling her that she's beautiful when she feels like she's looking her worst.
Have you ever wondered how a husband can kiss his wife after the trauma of childbirth and tell her that she's beautiful? Isn't it funny how it can be a T-shirt and sweat pants day and a husband will tell his wife that she's pretty? There are times when everything is going wrong, the makeup is not working and the hair is not cooperating, but a husband, fiancé or boyfriend will say, "You are just so beautiful."
One day I heard Carol telling someone that now that she's getting older and battling with time, she doesn't understand why her husband keeps chasing her. I waited a while before picking up on that conversation. We were sitting on the sofa together when I told her that I heard what she said about herself. I just looked at her and said, "All I see is beautiful."
This made me realize that when true love is present, you don't focus on the flaws. You see with the eyes of love. You see who your wife truly is inside and outside. It's not just her hairstyle, but her hair is beautiful. It's not the makeup or the room lighting that makes her eyes beautiful. Even when there are tears and weariness in them, it does not take away from the reality that her eyes are beautiful.
Then I had the most wonderful thought. If I can feel this way as a mere man about my wife, then how much more does Creator/God feel about mankind.
Unfortunately, since a lot of human to human interaction is focused upon fault finding, many people find it difficult to see differences and flaws in a healthy way. Instead of seeing the beauty in a person of another ethnicity, culture or nationality, we make pre-judgments about them. We even question their mannerisms, customs, practices and speech, comparing them to our own, through the filter of our life’s experience.
This is where I see the Golden Rule as a most vital key to help us see that which is beautiful in another person. The Golden Rule is always there to remind us that we must treat others the same way we want to be treated. We must respect another person’s culture in the same way we want them to respect our culture. If someone has customs, practices or speech that is very different from ours, we must be very careful to never assess their expressions as being inferior to our own.
This failure to see the beauty in the culture of others has been part of the root cause in our cultural and ethnic wars all over the world.
Just think how different the world would be if a cross-cultural golden rule was embedded in hearts and homes. Children would never be told they should not play with that other child because they are different. Instead they would learn to see the beauty.
These same children would grow up to become adults who carry the golden rule into every sphere of their lives. Even though there will be times of trauma, conflicts and disagreements, they would still possess the ability to see what is inside of others; past the external flaws and differences to declare from a genuinely golden-ruled heart, “All I See is Beautiful!”
Golden Rule Ambassador Chris Green
World Peace Ambassador, Dr. Clyde Rivers calls Chris and Carol Green the leading skilled experts in rebuilding, restoring and renewing hearts and homes. The Greens are certified master life coaches who founded the Fruitful Life Network, Inc. an innovative community care and coaching outreach. They are international columnist/writers with the award winning team of Dr. Clyde Rivers and iChange Nations Social Media News™.